Any parent is likely all too familiar with late night feedings and sleepless nights. If you’re a mom – you likely took on the majority of those duties while your partner somehow managed to sleep through them. In the thick of all those sleepless nights, did you ever wonder how your loved one managed to sleep like a log? Or did you think maybe he was just pretending? If it’s the latter… you’re not alone.
According to the 2014 NaturalFit Advanced Feeding & Soothing System, 44% of parents suspect their partners have pretended to be asleep to avoid late night feedings. The truth? More than one-third of dads surveyed (38%) admit they have actually done so, but only 28 percent of moms say the same.
To celebrate the launch of Chicco’s NaturalFit Advanced Feeding & Soothing System, which is designed to simplify bottle feeding for parents and their newborns, Chicco USA polled new moms and dads to get the inside scoop on what goes on during the wee hours of feeding-filled sleepless nights. We also got some insight from Chicco spokesperson and founder of Lady and the Blog, Vera Sweeney to learn more about this transition time.
Momtrends: What are some of our tips to transition from late-night feedings to developing a sleep schedule?
Vera Sweeney: It’s important to start the transition when your child is physically able to sleep through the night without additional nourishment. So, my first tip would be to not start until baby is ready. Once you are certain that you have reached that stage, the secret is to commit and never turn back.
When I decide that it is time to remove a late-night feeding, for a few days I give my child water. I do this because there is still a habit that needs to be broken. The water obviously won’t fill the child but the sucking puts them back to sleep as it is a soothing motion. Eventually, the baby will not wake because their hunger pangs will dissipate . Their body will adjust to the difference.
After about a week, I remove the water bottle and then I just soothe while keeping the baby in the crib. This is if the baby wakes at all. A little rub on the back or tummy just to let them know that mom is there makes baby feel safe and loved.
The trick is to never go back to feeding. The minute you do… you will have to start from square one. which can feel very defeating.
Momtrends: How can the Chicco NaturalFit Bottles Help with that?
Vera Sweeney: The Chicco NaturalFit Bottles have nipples that are soft and flexible and mimic a mother’s breast. This design makes it easy for the baby to latch onto. So, when you are feeding your child water, they will have an easy time latching on.
Momtrends: What are some of the things that you did during late-night feedings?
Vera Sweeney:I’ve had three children and my late-night habits have certainly changed over the last 8+ years or so. When I first became a mom, I would catch up on my favorite shows via Tivo. With my third, I got through many, many levels of Candy Crush during those wee hours of the morning. Thank goodness for technology!
Most nights though I would just sit and be with my newborn. Those quiet moments are some of the most cherished and special times of our lives. The real bond between mom and baby happens during the quiet, don’t you agree?
Momtrends: Did you and your husband trade off with feedings? If so what did you find that he did at night?
Vera Sweeney: I am so blessed to have a husband who is a hands-on dad. We split parental responsibilities right down the middle because we both work from home running our online business. He is not someone who plays games. Instead, he would catch up on world news and stock market updates. Not as exciting as beating level 65 if you ask me.
Some key findings from the survey include:
- Queen of late night: A whopping 91 percent of moms surveyed agree they take on the majority of the late night feedings.
- Worth the sacrifice: Although late night feedings put added strain on new parents, the bonding between parent and child during the wee hours is worth the lack of sleep. The majority of parents (75%) report those late night feedings have deepened the bond between them and their babies.
- Guilty of faking it: Forty-four percent of parents suspect their partners have pretended to be asleep to avoid late night feedings. Those suspicions may not be too far from the truth: more than one-third of dads surveyed (38%) admit they have actually done so, but only 28 percent of moms say the same.
- Feeding time = Facebook time: Nearly all moms (98%) and dads (94%) who check social media while feeding baby in the middle of the night report Facebook as the social network they are most likely to visit. That’s where the similarities end, as half of dads are most likely to check Twitter (48% vs. 23% of moms) and YouTube (45% vs. 25% of moms) while baby is feeding in the middle of the night; whereas moms are more likely to check Pinterest (38% vs. 16% of dads).
- Sports vs. Shopping: While feeding baby in the middle of the night, moms and dads surveyed are not visiting the same types of websites. Three-quarters of dads who browse the Internet are most likely to visit a sports-related website (79% vs. 17% of moms), such as ESPN.com, or general news site (73% vs. 48% of moms), while moms who browse are most likely to visit parenting (89% vs. 49% of dads) or retail websites (77% vs. 58% of dads).
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