Baby is slowly finding a schedule that he likes and mom is starting to go a little stir crazy for company. Time to plan baby's first playdate. Let's be honest here, the first playdates are all about mom/dad connecting with another human that speaks intelligibly (at least after one cup of coffee) and does not need assistance going to the bathroom. It's your chance to trade advice, compare sleep deprivation and...wait for it...maybe talk about non-baby topics. While the adult bonding goes on, the babies pretty much coo or nap side by side.
Who: Start small and plan to have a friend from your birthing class or pre-natal yoga class bring her new baby over for tea or a snack. In time you may feel brave enough to venture out into a new mommy group. Be warned these sometimes unwieldy NMGs can be an intense session of baby comparing or complaining. Momtrends advises starting small and building up your tolerance for new mom talk. For corporate moms that didn't get to make pals with other expecting friends, strike up a conversation with another stroller-pushing female at the pediatricians office, at the pharmacy buying breast shields, or at the park. A good pick-up line, "Do you have any idea how to get breast milk stains off cashmere?"--worked for me.
What: This is a low-pressure situation. Do not knock yourself out cleaning the living room to white glove standards. If you are going out, don't feel compelled to dress up, unless you are vying for a spot on The Real Housewives (but why would you be reading Momtrends if that were the case). Yes, this is a first date of sorts and you want to be your best, however strive for relaxed and natural--baby will pick up on your nervousness.
Where: A setting where you can have a conversation. Coffee shops that have room for strollers, a park, or your home.
Why: New settings are stimulating to babies and encourage brain development. Getting into the habit of being social is also a great way to build your parental resources (sitters, baby-friendly theaters, pediatric optometrists, etc.) and to keep you from feeling like a shut-in. Everyone is a winner.
When: Skip the rush hour at coffee joints. Midday meetings are best and plan on an hour or so of socialization.
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