Momtrends has never been a political site. From the beginning, we've embraced moms who are conservative, liberal and middle-of-the-road. When it comes to parenting, my team and I speak from a nonjudgemental place. It's the live and let live school of parenting. We are on the sidelines cheering moms on to be the best version of themselves. Right now, it's time to get off the sidelines. Here are some ideas on how to support your Black friends right now.
Seven Ways to Support the Black Community Right Now
The above illustration is one of the genius pieces from OhHappyDani. For more of her take on how to be an ally, head here.
- Listen. Check in with friends of color and HEAR them. Don't start by sharing how upset you are. This is your opportunity to be a source of support. The podcast CodeSwitch on NPR is an excellent start. It's the "fearless conversations about race that you've been waiting for! Hosted by journalists of color, our podcast tackles the subject of race head-on." Listen here
- Educate. Get the facts. Start with suggestions via Karen Walrond of www.chookooloonks.com. Watch the news (the best bet is to sprinkle in some conservative and some liberal takes) and read ARTICLES, not just headlines. Research statistics that show how deeply entrenched we are in racist practices.
- Read. Brené Brown suggested the book How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi. I started it yesterday via Audible and am now two chapters in and much more enlightened than I was just two days ago. I learned that simply stating I'm not a racist is not enough. Now is the time to be visibly antiracist. I'm starting a suggested reading list below for parents and kids.
- Parent. Dinner table conversations count. On the age-appropriate level, fill your kids in on what is happening. While we don't want to scare them, now is not the time to sugarcoat the violence happening to Black people. Get their opinions and give them the language to fight racism when they see it. Role play and prep them to be the allies their non-white friends need. This New York Times article has some great suggestions.
- Give. Donate to funds bailing out protestors or support funds helping to put a spotlight on racist practices. I'm donating to the Brooklyn Bail Fund here to help protesters with fees or the Minnesotafreedomfund.org.
- Vote. Make your voice heard at the next election. Vote for leaders with strong antiracist records. Register here.
- Follow. If you are on social media, follow leading voices of color in the mom community. Some suggestions @Ijeomaoluo @glamnellie and the best mom/first lady @michelleobama
Racial Justice Work in Progress
The above list is a short, actionable one. It's meant to be added to. Change is often uncomfortable and messy, I might not have all the right words right now, but I'm working on it.
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For all the Black moms in our community, tell me what more we can do.
I told you what I was currently working on. I saw this Jane Mount illustration on Instagram (read more about it here) and it's a start.
- For teens I love Born a Crime by Trevor Noah (review here) and Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
- For middle grades, I love Jason Reynolds. The last one we read was Long Way Down also Jacqueline Woodson is divine. We loved how they talked about race in Harbor Me.
- Mommypoppins.com has an awesome list of books about racism for kids from preschool to high school.
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