So, have you had "the talk" with your kids yet? Admittedly, I have not. And that's probably because I can still remember squirming with discomfort at ten years old when my own mother gave me the rundown on the birds and the bees. First, there was a video complete with cartoon depictions. What followed next was me shaking my head and covering my eyes. My poor mom. It was quite the scene. I, basically, wanted nothing to do with sex ed. And I bet many of you felt the same way at that age. I also bet you don't want your kids to feel that way...Neither do I!
I want my children to feel comfortable enough to come to me with their questions. I want them to go into puberty armed with information...because information is power! And it's high time I let go of my own squirming. I still can't even watch a movie that has sex in it around my mom. That's pretty ridiculous if you think about it. I'm, ahem, a few years past my own childhood. Bwah! And I would just like to point out that my mom is not at fault here. The discomfort I feel surrounding this topic is totally my own hang up. That is why this will be the summer of sex ed in my house...
That's where AMAZE comes to the rescue. Having launched back in 2016, their mission is to empower parents to become the primary sexuality educators of their children. And they're here to help with accurate and inclusive sex ed videos. I can tell you after watching some of the videos myself, they're extraordinarily helpful. So, I'm going to share one of them with you today along with some trusted tips....
1. Start early...The biggest tip I walked away with after diving into the sex ed resources AMAZE has to offer is that I can start talking to my kids about sex earlier than I previously thought. When I was growing up, you started sex ed in fifth grade and that's kind of where I thought I would be with it. That's simply not early enough I've discovered. You can start as young as 4 or 5 with some basic information. So, although I was thinking I was years away from sitting my six year old down, that's not necessarily true. I'm actually running a bit behind.
2. Keep it casual...You don't have to make a big deal out of talking about sexuality. In fact, the more of a production you make out of it, and the more on edge you are, the less receptive your kids are going to be. If you're having trouble figuring out where to start, AMAZE shared these handy dandy sex conversation starters with us. They also created the "Parent Playlist," along with author Deborah Roffman, which consists of 10 animated videos designed to help parents plan their conversations with young children. With titles like “How Do You Talk to Young Kids About Sex," “Where Do Babies Come From” and “Is Playing Doctor OK," you're bound to find just what you need to help you start educating your 4-9 year olds.
3. Just say no to embarrassment...Try to send the embarrassment you feel when saying grown-up words back to your adolescence. If you teach your children the correct terms regarding their sexuality, they're less likely to be too embarrassed to come to you later. You want the lines of communication to stay open! The next time you're sitting on a swing with your daughter and she asks you where babies come from, don't change the subject...Tell her!
So, who else is ready to say yes to the summer of sex ed? Come on! It's 2018! Gone are the days of shrinking away in shame when you have to say the word S-E-X around your kids! This is a new generation and our kids are not going to have our hangups...RIGHT?!
And for more parenting tricks, check out these must-try reading tips for young readers!
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