Have your brought joy to others?
Have you experienced great joy?
The blogging world has been good to me. This week it brought me a reminder about the ephemeral nature of life and the value of friends. One of our own (a Brooklyn mom who is an amazing writer and chef), lost her husband. We gathered to celebrate his life and to show our support for the wife/lover/mom who now sets out to reconfiguring her future minus her partner.
I’m not even going to attempt advice on that front; instead I’m going to sing the praises of the memorial service’a gorgeous celebration of life’where Jennifer shined brighter than ever.
The memorial was a smashing success, life affirming, uplifting and touchingly honest. And I hope we all ponder the quote one of the many speakers provided above. Jennifer had on magnificent shoes (stick with me here it’s not all superficial). I took it as a metaphor’finding beauty and joy in the unexpected. I suspect that will be a theme for her over the next months and years and I hope to share in the lesson.
While the portraits (both in words and on video) of the man were deeply touching, I was equally moved by the bloggers there to support our friend’a diverse group of women who found each other through a shared love of food, family and telling good stories online. (Note: for those of you not in NYC there’s also a peanut butter pie tribute happening–see tribute photo below.)
Jokes about bloggers being anti-social and shut-ins really miss the mark. At the memorial I gathered with more than a dozen blogging moms with whom I’ve developed deep, real friendships. I am so grateful that Momtrends brought Jennifer into my life. I consider myself blessed to be connected to this woman who possesses such beauty, strength and poise.
So in my open condolence letter, I want to tell you Jennifer that you amaze me and my heart goes out to you.
Blogs are like any other part of the world’you get out a direct proportion of what you put in. Brood, snipe, whine, complain, and you’re likely to get mired in that sort of negative space. If you are lucky, if you use your words and time wisely, you might just wander into a friendship that goes way beyond the click of a ‘follow’ or ‘like’ button. If you are very lucky, you might just meet a Jennie of your own.